Life sure does have a sense of humor when it comes to this. Most girls will have their heart broken or have to break some one else’s
There are many different types of relationships and with each situation; we must remember that we have actually drawn certain people into our life. With each encounter we have, we learn more about the type of relationship we really want, what we will accept and what makes us feel great.
Never ever allow anyone to,
- Speak to you negatively or aggressively
- Physically or mentally abuse you
- Make you feel second best (to an ex girlfriend)
- Try and change you, as you are great the way you are and someone must adore the ‘package”
Do not expect another person to make you happy. Make yourself happy first and then find a beautiful man who will treasure and adore you just the way you are.
Ending a relationship
Relationships end because someone decided that they were not able to take it any further. When that is the case, you should not try and convince someone to be with you. When a relationships ends, there is reason and
often people try and make it work.They give it a second, third or fourth chance but the cracks are there and unless you are both prepared to make the changes needed, it will not work.
Everyone will experience that awful feeling of a break up where your heart feels like it has been ripped from the very center of your chest and you cry like a hurt child feeling empty and lost…with very puffy eyes! (Can you tell I’ve been through it before)?
It is such a cliché but it really is true that time heals the heart. Every relationship that has failed for me has actually been a blessing in disguise.
It really means that there is someone out there better suited to you…and that is exciting.
Go about choosing relationships and expect from your partner what you would expect from your best friend. Would a girlfriend speak to you the way he does? Do you trust him and have mutual respect for each other?
We choose men in our lives that we feel in our hearts we deserve. So, what choices are you making?
You deserve to pick the best. It is ok; we have all kissed a few frogs before the prince appears. It is all part of your journey.
Choose to have people in your life (whether it is a friendship or relationship) who look at all your beautiful qualities and enrich your life. You deserve it.
You cannot make someone feel a certain way or act a certain way towards you. You need to just allow everyone you meet to be the person they choose to be. A great quote from an unknown sage, “Don’t try and teach a ping to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig”
“Love is not control, needy, expectation, a trophy, ownership. It is not about losing yourself but about being yourself”
Founder Beautiful Minds Australia
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Beautiful Minds is Australia’s leading provider of self-esteem and confidence education for girls aged 11 – 17. Founded by Marina Passalaris, Beautiful Minds runs seminars in schools, a two day signature program in school holidays, an annual teen event held in Sydney and supported by Girlfriend Magazine, Westpac Bank, Sony Music, Fujifilm, SOS Rehydrate and Brent Street and an online program called BU online.