Here is a blog from our new guest writer – Ellejay. Enjoy!
INVITING LOVE IN – WEEK 1
January 2017
I want to invite you to come on a journey with me and hoping that some of you might take me up on the invitation. Some of you may even relate to it and want to share your knowledge with me. Heaven knows I am going to need it.
So, it’s a new year and I’ve been provided with some new challenges. At 54 years of age having been made redundant 2 days before Christmas from a role I had been in for 5+ years, it has been the perfect time to re-assess my life, my goals and my dreams. I’ve sorted new work for the most part. That is not the challenge (well not the biggest one). But there has been one dream that has alluded me for the past 14 years and finally I have decided that enough is enough. This is my year. I am going to find wonderful, fulfilling, enduring love with an available man perfectly suited to me who is ready for commitment. WOW, there I have said it.
I’ve spent a lot of years convincing myself that I am fine without a man in my life. After 2 divorces, 4 children, countless coffee dates, several unfulfilling relationships, celibacy, friends with benefits and thousands of dollars and hours of counselling, personal development and alternative healing therapies, I have finally realised that it is all about timing. You have to be truly ready for love.
Being a believer in all things Law of Attraction, I know full well that my beliefs turn into my thoughts,which turn into actions, which turn into results. What we think about we bring about. Knowing this and living it are two quite different things. I am going to put this to the test like never before.
My deep rooted belief (perhaps stemming from my very first divorce or even earlier) that I am not loveable for the long haul, has been like a broken record in my life. It keeps popping up its ugly head no matter how many times and ways I try to shift it. Creating 14 years (or longer) of wrong choices in men or sabotaging relationships with the great ones I have found. FROM NOW ON – I AM TRULY, DEEPLY, ENDURINGLY LOVEABLE!
So what does one do in 2017 when she wants to re-enter the dating world and find the man of her dreams? She turns to online dating of course. Now, I am not a virgin to online dating. 14 years ago I entered this domain and could write a whole book about my experiences. Perhaps these stories will unfold as I blog this journey over the coming weeks. Now many of you reading this will probably be thinking, “don’t do online dating – get a hobby, go out and enjoy life, sign up for a course, etc, etc – you will meet someone when you least expect it!!”. Sorry folks, have heard it all before, I have read the books and have the t-shirt. I have an amazing life, full of meeting new people, following my passions and enjoying stuff. It hasn’t produced what I’m looking for. Some will say, “stop looking so hard and it will come along when you stop”. Well I have done that too…..in fact I’d stopped looking for the last 5 years. And you know what, I did meet a couple of nice ones and thought I had hit the jackpot. Unfortunately they didn’t want me like I wanted them. One thing you can be sure of when meeting someone on a dating site (and there are many conditions to this) is that they are looking to date, have selected you as dating potential and have laid themselves out quite bare.
So week one…choose a site, put up a profile and watch the magic happen… haha…not quite. But that story is for the next instalment. Stay tuned!